Posted on July 13, 2009

An article on CollegeKidsinCrisis.com advises that if you’re hosting a gathering for your teen, you must avoid being a friend and focus on your role as a parent. The article also gives the following tips to help you through the process:

It’s important to set expectations with your teen ahead of time. Make sure he or she knows that you will not allow alcohol or drugs of any kind at the party, and make sure this is communicated to all guests. Inform your neighbors of the party and ask that they keep an eye out for suspicious behavior.

Be involved in making the guest list with your teen, and make sure you have contact information for each guest’s parent. Ask about any concerns your teen might have about any of the guests or any situations that could arise. Be sure to limit the number of guests so you can ensure adequate chaperonage.

Make sure guests and their parents know that if a guest leaves the party, he or she won’t be allowed to return and their parents will be called. In addition, make sure parents who won’t be chaperoning know the start and end times of the party and will prearrange transportation.

Limit guests’ access to certain areas of the house and property, and lock up all valuables, alcohol, prescription drugs, and weapons. Plan activities to occupy the guests and provide plenty of snacks, soda, and water. It’s also a good idea to set an example by not providing alcohol for the adults who will be there.

Regularly move through the party to check any off-limits areas, and collect all keys so you can keep track of who is arriving and leaving. Speak to each guest before they leave and check for signs of impairment. If a guest arrives at the party already under the influence, keep them there and call their parent to pick them up. If he or she leaves and someone is injured, you could be held responsible.

Lastly, make sure your teen and his or her friends are having fun in a safe, healthy way.